Protecting Your Peace in a Culture of Martyrdom

Recap time!

In a world where caregivers are expected to shed blood, sweat, and tears beyond their capacity, it’s hard not to become a martyr for the people you serve. Education, health care, and social services are all industries that rely on employees to completely surrender their own needs to serve the greater good – without recognizing that the system in itself is flawed, and is NOT sustainable by exploiting our labour this way.

And yet, here we are, begging the question, “How do we protect our peace?”

We spent half an hour a couple of Wednesdays ago during our second discussion panel chatting with two incredible individuals: Gabriel Malquisto, who works with street children in Manila, Philippines; and Michelle Gordon, who’s worked in America’s Title 1 schools, sojourned to the United Arab Emirates to learn work-life balance, and is now teaching in Texas, USA. Both had wisdom to share about how they deal with the trauma that comes from their work, and both had so much to say about how they unapologetically protect their peace.

The key takeaways:

  • Set strong boundaries, both physically and mentally.
  • Leave the trauma at work; don’t bring it home with you.
  • Make time to rest, or you will lose your passion for your work.

Obviously much easier said than done. In order to actually implement the aforementioned wisdom, there needs to be a complete shift in mindset for us – heck, even to BELIEVE we deserve to be at peace, even when the needs of our students are so pressing, requires bravery on our part. We cannot do our work if we burn out. Period.

So how do we protect our peace?

Click here to have a listen to the recording! We hope you get as much out of it as we did. We will update the blog post with the transcript once it’s ready 🙂


One act of kindness at a time…

My friend Christian wrote about hope the other day, and it really, truly, hit the nail on the head for me. It resonated through my bones with a resounding vibration that I almost started bawling like a baby.

I’m sentimental and rather tender-hearted, I know.. now GO READ HIS POST.


You probably saw that I responded to his post with this:

I am torn by these moments of hopelessness all the time, especially lately. There is so much pain lying everywhere with no one to fix it. And we can only do so much. But I’ve vowed that I would do something, ANYTHING. In contributing to the collective conscious, we are doing our part.. even just a bit. We have to believe that.

I’ve been going through phases of pessimism and cynicism lately. Not so much about nature or death or any such thing, but of people. And aren’t we always pessimistic and cynical about people? It’s people who make the choice to hurt one another. It’s people who go out of their way to make each other miserable. It’s people who make thoughtless mistakes that tear friendships and relationships apart. It’s people who decide to take concepts and ideologies and religions, and use them as excuses to destroy each other.

People. All people.

I’m not perfect either. Less than a year ago for example, I made a poor judgment call that burned bridges with some really good people in my life. In times of weakness, we sometimes make the most painful of mistakes that can really hurt others. All because we’re people.

It breaks my heart, it does.

But as in my response to Christian, we have to do what little we can. We have to believe that in doing what we can, we will help make this world a better place to live.

Each and every single one of us are individuals, and on our own, we simply can’t do everything. By making our own small contributions though, we can push the world in a different direction. Shift the momentum the kinder way. Inspire humankind to be better, stronger, wiser. Even in our own imperfections, we must push through, one day at a time. One act of kindness at a time. And maybe eventually, though we may not witness it, we will have set the stage so that our legacy of collaboration, cooperation, and passionate living carries on through our kids, our grandkids, our descendants.

And it all starts with YOU.

Creating a multicultural school and classroom.

We are seeing waves of immigrants and refugees arriving on our Canadian soil, and as families arrive, we are registering a more and more diverse generation of children into our schools. How do we address everyone’s cultural differences, while helping our new students appreciate our North American culture?

I’m currently taking an Additional Qualifications course on teaching English Language Learners (ELL). This week, we focused on welcoming our newcomers into our schools and classrooms and how we can help them with their orientation into their new home. In Canada, we pride ourselves in being a cultural mosaic; however, what exactly does this mean for our hallways, our classrooms, our way of life as Canadians?

Here are some of the strategies I thought of while working on one of our weekly assignments. There are certainly more, but I stuck with pointing out key points that I feel we as a community need to work on.

  • Display art, posters, signs, etc. from a variety of cultures to create an environment where diversity is celebrated. Doing so will explicitly express the principle that the school appreciates and admires our differences. I find however that there is never enough emphasis placed on this aspect of creating an inclusive environment. Oftentimes, schools would opt to displaying posters that quote the necessity of diversity; yet the visuals stop there. Clearly, there needs to be more substantial examples of diversity.
  • Our readings suggested appointing only one student ambassador for the class; I would suggest training your whole class to be ambassadors of new students. This shares the responsibility of welcoming newcomers with the class as a whole and creates a community of helpers. Perhaps we could try this at the beginning of our school year; and once this is established, we can choose different students to be ambassadors for the same student at different times, and every student will have the opportunity to feel responsible for taking care of their peers.
  • Incorporate diversity in the various subjects taught: artists, scientists, mathematicians, linguists, politicians, etc. This should be done to show our students the global picture of contribution to the world’s progress. Too often, we make use of the same icons over and over again to discuss our subject matters, but our students deserve a broader perspective. Examples: Einstein, the German Jew, was not the only genius in science and math. The French and the English were not the only explorers, though they were the ones to colonize Canada. There was more to Japan in World War II than the atomic bombs that were dropped. Martin Luther King Jr. was not the only ethnic person in North America to battle racism. The list goes on.
  • Most personally fundamental for educators is that we must make it a habit to learn about the different cultures of our students, and to integrate our curiosity into a part of our way of life. We can make use of the strategies above in an attempt to teach our students about diversity, but if we do not take the time to personally embody the values of acceptance and appreciation, our students will never learn those values from us, because then we are not genuinely living them day-to-day. I have witnessed teachers teach lessons with Sadako and the Thousand Paper Cranes, which is beautiful; however, that’s where the diversity and lessons of peace end. And so I don’t feel that this is enough. There needs to be more substance within the classroom culture, and within the teacher’s view of diversity.

Questions? Thoughts?


Blog Action Day: Climate Change

Whoops. I’m a day late. I was preoccupied with checking up on Bill C-6 and our potential loss of rights and freedoms last night, and I forgot to post about climate change.

So here it is.

Becoming involved in environmental sustainability has successfully inched itself into our (un)consciousness over the last decade. This means that people generally feel more inclined to make decisions based on the protection of our environment. Examples: the Greater Toronto Area has passed a law a few months ago that requires grocery stores to charge their customers for plastic bags, which should in theory discourage the use of these plastics. Currently, they are looking to make it mandatory for these same stores to provide an alternative to plastic bags so that vendors will not be tempted to make a profit off plastic bags.

There are also inspirational organizations popping up left-right-and-centre on a regular basis that help to involve youth in this environmental movement. The Pachamama Alliance is one such example: it promotes a holistic approach to simply loving our home called Earth.

Needless to say, I am quite pleased about all of this ^_^

We don’t all have to be David Suzuki in order to support a movement for climate change. It’s all in the little things we do, such as consciously making it a habit to turn off the lights in the house, optimize on our government-funded Green Bin program (yay GTA!!), minimize our use of plastics, carpool more often, etc…

Check out a list of things you can do here on Endless opportunities to raise your consciousness to the situation so that when bigger decisions are required, you will naturally feel more inclined to do what is best for our world =)


Reaction Management 101: feeling offended?

I’m sure you’ve all come across people who have been too blinded by their emotional response to share ideas and opinions rationally. We are all guilty of it. I think this is one of the reasons why democracy struggles: most are willing to share their opinions, but they aren’t willing to hear the opinions of others. The concept of the debate goes out the window; offense is taken when it is not meant, and the very foundation of discussion crumbles into a shouting match.

Questions to consider are as follows:

  • How often have you responded angrily to what someone is saying, and found it overwhelmingly difficult to see what they saw?
  • When was the last time you consciously kept your anger in check and decided to listen rather than harshly draw premature conclusions?
  • Have you ever name-called during a debate?

I’ve found that the key to a healthy discussion, in addition to simply listening, is to manage your responses. It’s difficult to discuss a topic with someone you don’t agree with at all, and to have your beliefs questioned; but what’s even more difficult is to remain calm when this happens.

Reaction Management 101: some things to keep in mind when you feel offended by what the other person has said to you:

  • Paraphrasing for clarity: Take a deep breath, look at the other person carefully, and paraphrase what the other person has said. Say to them calmly and respectfully, “Let me see if I understand you correctly: are you saying that _____________?” Usually, this clears up any misunderstandings, and the source of offense is wiped off the table.
  • Articulate your point: If the other person confirms and the source of offense is still there, what better way to defend your position than to provide a counter argument? If what they are saying doesn’t make sense, take a breath to calm your boiling anger, and explain to them why you feel their rationale is flawed or offensive.
  • Accept and walk away: If the other person still doesn’t agree with your premises, and therefore disagrees with your logic, what else can you do but agree to disagree? Simply end the debate then and there and walk away from it, because at that point you’re at a place where neither of you can compromise your point of view. That’s all there is to it.

I just looked over the list. Man. Can you tell I’m a teacher?

Anyway, those are some of the strategies I’ve used to keep myself out of shouting matches. They’ve worked for me so far. Anyone have any more they’d like to share?

Food for thought, out.